Comments on: Elderly Parents Who Give Up

By: Another victim of a psycho momma

Another victim of a psycho momma — Tue, 25 May 2010 01:22:07 +0000

Joane said:
“Yes, and remember, we will all be there some day , if we are so blessed!”

What???

You call the heartless mess that is old age in America “being blessed”???

Honey, this society is BROKEN. The farming-village model of American society did not throw old people out into the cold for the “gerontology” vampires. It had a place for them, like sane humane societies do. Given the satanic orgy America is turning into, I’d rather get smeared by a cement truck at 60 than be “blessed,” as you call it. There’s “positive attitude,” and then there’s pathological optimism, a.k.a. DENIAL.

By the way, whoever-you-are, I know EXACTLY what you’re going through and I urge you to protect your sanity. If your mother is anything like mine, she’ll use your altruism and concern to ruthlessly bleed you white, and she isn’t worth it. Nobody is.

By: Cindy

Cindy — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 14:19:57 +0000

I completely understand being able to only take someone for a short period of time. Not with my parents but with my aunt who lives nearby.

Fortunately my parents live in PA, a state that actually helps their senior citizens. They get very little money each month and couldn’t afford housing. But now they are living in a beautiful senior housing area and the county helps pay their rent each month. So now they actually can afford groceries too! They have a 2 bedroom villa as they call it. It’s perfect for them right now. I do worry about the next step when they require help but for now they can care for themselves. I just wish they lived closer to me.

Hope things are working out for your mom.
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By: Susan Phillips

Susan Phillips — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:54:50 +0000

Our mothers must have been sisters separated at birth. Don’t feel guilty , but I also realize easier said than done. My mother is 81 and has gotten harder to deal with as she got to her 80’s. Fortunately my brother and his wife are godsends and do all the nitty gritty. Do what you know is right for you and you’ll never make a wrong decision. It’s sad when people have a life of unhappiness and negativity, all the more reason to have a wonderful life filled with love and happiness.
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By: Joan Adams

Joan Adams — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 00:54:02 +0000

Yes, and remember, we will all be there some day , if we are so blessed! Saw a quote recently that said “Be nice to your kids. They will pick out your nursing home!”
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By: Ginny

Ginny — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 00:50:34 +0000

Oh man, I can see the anger part. That just really sucks. Especially if she does have her health. I have issues w/ my mom as well, but in a way it is opposite. She has major major health issues, so she has become pretty negative. It is totally understandable, but hard to take all the same.

I think it is just insane how much those independent living cost. My mom had looked into them years ago for her mom when she got cancer. They never could afford it, so my mom was stuck w/ the responsibility of caring for her. This of course, made my moms health issues all the more worse.

Well you are in my thoughts. Dealing with aging parents can be very hard.
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By: Joan Adams

Joan Adams — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 12:59:57 +0000

This is a very difficult decision to have to make. And yet not an unusual one at all. With all the senior activity these days, one would wonder how such a thing can happen, and yet it does. Some seniors just don’t seem to stay active and then they get depressed, like your mom.
And I do agree with you, much of life is about our attitude.
You will be very wise to take care of yourself in all of this. I hope you find perfect housing for your mom soon.
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By: sue

sue — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 20:41:08 +0000

I’m so sorry. You do what you need to do to take care of yourself too.
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